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Season 2

May 20, 2022

Did Zetty just FLIRT with that man?

J Smiles is caught off guard when Zetty initiates a conversation with an unknown, handsome man. Is it flirting? Sounds like it. But how does Zetty remember such social etiquette when she cannot recall her birthday? J shares w...

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May 14, 2022

Can't Even Choose to Die with Dignity

"Dying with Dignity" laws allow what is commonly called assisted suicide. ALZ and dementia do not qualify. J Smiles is not happy about this but as usual she finds away to add sparkle to a sour situation and slides in …

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April 30, 2022

Double Duty: Caregiving & Working at the exact same moment!

What happens when you are doing your REAL income-earning, bills-paying job and unexpectedly you MUST give eyeball care to your LO? This unnerving experience is shared by J Smiles. She secured "help" for Zetty because J had a ...

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April 23, 2022

Taking Zetty on a Date: The Motown Concert

Experts say that Alzheimer's does not erode music memories. Filled with excitement, J Smiles and Zetty prepare for a night out on the town for a concert. Not just any concert, two of Zetty's favorite bands of ALL-TIMES. J get...

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April 15, 2022

Protection or Paranoia: Sharing Your LO's ALZ Diagnosis

Many caregivers coverup or hide their LO's ALZ. J hopes to eradicate the necessity to do that by starting this conversation and continuing to shed light on the facts of ALZ. J Smiles admits it was hard to "go public" …

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April 1, 2022

The Hydration Handbook

J Smiles is back! Winter hibernation made discussing hydration more necessary than ever. Hydration is important for seniors to avoid health complications. J shares the struggle of getting Zetty to consume water. The doctor's...

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Dec. 31, 2021

Caregivers, Celebrate Your Wins!

Do you own being a Caregiver Out LOUD? J Smiles pull apart why many caregivers do not include their CG title in the list of "What I do" in conversations, on social media or resumés. Perplexed, she reflected and found …

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Dec. 19, 2021

The Boo-Boo Faint: Vasovagal Syncope

While sleeping after a long night shift with Zetty, J Smiles is startled awake by the words "J come quick, Zetty has passed out!" J has a matter of seconds to determine what is happening using her foggy brain, wobbly …

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Dec. 1, 2021

Dentures and Dementia are Oral Care Hell!

Zetty had dentures much of her adult life but J never had to get involved -- until now. As a caregiver, J Smiles is learning that it is not as simple as her brain-health mom made it seem all those …

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Nov. 29, 2021

Thanksgiving is just Thursday.

J Smiles gives family caregivers the real, confusing truth about celebrating Thanksgiving when your LO has dementia, ALZ. Yeah, you want to love on them and smother them with food, family and fun. But is it a good idea? J …

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Nov. 6, 2021

Advocating 101: Partner with the Provider - chatting with "Eclectic" …

J Smiles is joined by patient advocate superhero and caregiver, "Eclectic" Dawn (ED). ED shares countless stories of holding the medical team accountable to her mother's care. But she is not arrogant or pushy. Instead she tak...

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Oct. 27, 2021

Is the test for the ALZ Gene worth it?

J Smiles grapples with whether or not to take the ALZ GENE test. Zetty, her mom, was diagnosed with early onset and Zetty's father had ALZ too. Will knowing make life better or more stressful? J leans into her caregiver …

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Aug. 1, 2021

Balancing Pain, Passion and Professional Life: a conversation with Su…

J Smiles is joined by Susan - a daughter, wife, mom and high-powered executive who found herself leading the caregiver charge when was diagnosed with early onset ALZ. Susan's mom was living independently and completely self-s...

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June 23, 2021

"Wow, mom hid Alzheimer’s!" - a chat with Hillary

Hillary's mom live independently for decades until an unrelated doctor's visit showed mom's brain wasn’t functioning well. Is it cancer or dementia? A facility, her home or live with family? Hillary and her brother (two diff...

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June 14, 2021

A plane, a boat, a monkey: Our Love Circus - A convo with Yvette McNa…

J Smiles and Yvette continue with part 2. Yvette reveals the eventual diagnosis her mom was given, how her family managed LIFE along the way, her top advice for newbie caregivers and more. Yvette recounts earthy, gritty and h...

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June 1, 2021

A plane, a boat, a monkey: Our Love Circus - A convo with Yvette McNa…

*Audio UPDATE/Correction 6/13/21* 🥰 Few family caregivers have a story that put J Smiles on her butt - Yvette did. Whirlwind does not begin to describe the snap crackle pop speed the dementia used to invade the McNally Family...

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May 17, 2021

My (J Smiles) memory scare, is it Alzheimer’s?

J Smiles struggles with abnormal memory loss and brain fog. Her immediate fear is the early onset of Alzheimer’s -- any caregiver's nightmare. She paints a picture like only J can of the events leading up to her panic and …

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April 26, 2021

Keeping Mom Independent: A Conversation with Kim Cooper

J Smiles chats with Kimberly Cooper, a sandwich generation wife determined to honor her mom's passion for independence even after dementia enters their lives. Kim details her mom's stroke which nudged the cognitive decline. J...

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April 5, 2021

Deep Sleep Reveals NEW Fears!

Finally J Smiles has a healthy sleep hygiene routine... and it works, perfectly. Well, she sleeps long and hard. The problem is the depth of slumber unlocks unknown caregiving consternation. She has to decide whether to ditch...

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March 29, 2021

I look, talk, walk like me but I don't feel like me: Caregiver Confus…

J Smiles takes a big trip to Washington, DC to celebrate the 100th anniversary of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. She is elated to take a such a meaningful vacation. A newbie caregiver at the time, J is looking forward …

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March 22, 2021

A Burglar is Breaking in on me & Zetty!

For once J is able to get Zetty in the bed before 2am, excited and sound asleep all hell breaks loose when the house alarm blares "intruder alert." J is delirious, rubbing her eyes and trying to determine what to …

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March 15, 2021

Caregiver Dating

J Smiles believes that dating is self care. The problem is she cannot seem to secure a date. She takes the listener on a journey of her pre-caregiver dating existence. After Zetty's ALZ diagnosis, there is so much sacrifice,...

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March 1, 2021

"New" mama would embarrass "old" mama!

Caregiving is so nuanced. We can identify the major things swiftly -- medicine and food must be consumed; bills paid and so on. What happens when non-harmful modifications appear? Those creature comforts - habits - preference...

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Feb. 22, 2021

Sleep: The New Soulmate

Who knew skipping sleep could add up so quickly? Not, J Smiles! What J believed was a supernatural power is now bad for her. She struggles -- yet again -- to accept a monumental shift. Most of her life she …

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Feb. 8, 2021

Agh, Zetty Escaped!

J Smiles opens Season 2 with a riveting story of personal panic. J wakes up but cannot find Zetty anywhere. On vacation and without her local support system, J scrambles to create a strategy to trace Zetty's steps. But where …

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