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Season 1

Nov. 27, 2020

Rolling with Resistance - caregiver Omar Hamilton

Omar Hamilton joins J Smiles on a deep dive into the life of a child flying blindly into the foggy cognitive abyss of a parent. Omar's dad was living independently and quite self sufficient. Or so everyone thought. Omar, a …

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Nov. 9, 2020

Pivoting on Pins and Needles - the life of caregiver Erika Watson

J Smiles and Erika have been thick as theives for over 20 yrs. Howard University and Delta Sigma Theta Sorority cemented their relationship. But as only kids who love to travel, who appreciate fine dining, who have never miss...

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Nov. 2, 2020

Uh oh! Zetty wants a smart phone.

Zetty throws J Smiles off with a request for a cell phone. What seems like a simple ask turns into a quest for the holy grail. For Zetty, J soon realizes it is a dignity issue too. J Smiles takes …

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Oct. 7, 2020

First time broke me, but now...

Alzheimer's disease is very mysterious. Caregivers are often guessing what their LO's (loved ones) are feeling, experiencing, etc. CG's live a life of magical charades. The first time ALZ shows up in an ordinary daily event c...

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Sept. 29, 2020

The Lie of Love: with caregiver Chef Angela

Chef Angela (Angela Gorham) joins J Smiles for an in-the-trenches-right-now-conversation. Like J, she is single, childless and her mom's full-time caregiver. Another commonality, another's death made their mother's Alzheimer'...

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Sept. 21, 2020

Give Caregivers Grace: a "crew' chat with Monica Cost

J Smiles lets listeners meet another main "crew" member, a major supporter on her journey as a caregiver, Monica Cost. Interestingly, their bond started as adults through civic board membership. But wow, did they make up fo...

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Sept. 16, 2020

Fighting Frustration

Caregivers experience quite a few dark, negative emotions. Often they are ashamed to shared such feelings aloud. J Smiles tackles frustration in hopes of normalizing this "negative" expression. She uses a variety of funny and...

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Sept. 7, 2020

Resentment Happens

Caregivers experience a tsunami of emotions. Positive, negative, neutral, unspeakable. J Smiles tackles resentment. She uses very specific examples of pain and purpose to expose her journey of uncovering this tricky emotion. ...

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Aug. 24, 2020

Routine Doctors Visits... UGH!

Routine does not mean regular when it comes to doctors office visits for Zetty. Much to J Smiles dismay, these common appointments are quite eventful. Ever the observant comedic advocate, J Smiles gives the listener a first e...

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Aug. 17, 2020

No Way That Happened: Zany Zetty Stories

Quirky, honest storytelling. J Smiles files solo recounting a series of unrelated true events that remind us it will all be okay in the end, one way or another. Each memory spotlights how simple slips into complex and how com...

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Aug. 10, 2020

Variety is NOT the Spice of Life.

Choices and options are celebrated all over the world. Everyday we are encouraged to expand more, try more, do more. We are trained to avoid boredom at all cost. And definitely never become too bland or predictable. J Smiles ...

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Aug. 3, 2020

Caregivers Need Parental Controls Too!

J Smiles moves swiftly to shed light on a normalized bias in the United States that really irks her. The legal marginalization of the elderly. She gives examples of how lawmakers and policy pushers have not included Alzheimer...

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July 28, 2020

Caregivers need care too: a “crew” chat with Christine Beatty

J Smiles lets listeners meet one of her main crew members, one her biggest supporters on her journey as a caregiver, Christine Beatty. Their bond started as members of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. at Howard University alm...

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July 20, 2020

Mama is Covid+, we must Quarantine!

Faced with an awful trifecta, J Smiles and Zetty must quarantine for two weeks with zero additional caregivers. The stress is compounded when Zetty returns from the hospital less healthy than when she went in. J has to throw ...

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July 13, 2020

They Stole My Mama!!!

J Smiles pours out her heart in this episode. Believing Zetty has a simple Urinary Tract Infection (UTI), she is forced to call 911. It turns out to be much more serious. The ER presents one obstacle after another as …

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July 7, 2020

911: To Call or Not To Call

J Smiles addresses the nightmare dilemma every caregiver faces sooner or later... whether or not to use 911 (or another emergency medical service). The decision is compounded by the dementia person's inability to communicate....

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July 3, 2020

PART 2: A conversation with Dr. Sandy: The Neurosurgeon & Caregiver

J Smiles' completes the two part conversation with Dr. Sandea Greene-Harris, neurosurgeon and caregiver. Dr. Sandy clears up a common misconception of dementia. The two share personal stories of prioritizing caregiving respon...

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July 2, 2020

PART 1: A conversation with Dr. Sandy: The Neurosurgeon & Caregiver

J Smiles begins the two part conversation with Dr. Sandea "Dr. Sandy" Greene-Harris. Dr. Sandy was introduced to you in Ep 1 and now you get to hear why this neurosurgeon was uniquely situated to become president of Zetty's ...

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June 22, 2020

My body is falling apart, where's the duck tape?

J Smiles shares how the stress of caregiving created physical sickness landing her at the hospital. Plus, she walks you through her journey of grief as a caregiver for Zetty, who has Alzheimer's.

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June 15, 2020

PART 2: A conversation with caregiver DeWanda Smith, The Zetty Whispe…

J Smiles' conversation with DeWanda Smith, The Zetty Whisperer, continues with more comical stories and more tips. DeWanda's easy going manner shines through as an excellent approach to administering care. Specific examples o...

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June 15, 2020

PART 1: A conversation with caregiver DeWanda Smith: The Zetty Whispe…

Zetty's first, and best caregiver, joins J Smiles to recount, relive and laugh. Listen to DeWanda Smith, the Zetty whisperer, share how and why she became a caregiver after retiring from the corporate world. DeWanda and J Sm...

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June 8, 2020

H.E.L.P. - I'm not qualified.

Zetty requires 24/7 care and J Smiles is clueless as to how to provide it. J Smiles gets ideas and suggestions from internet searches and a childhood friend. Undaunted and overwhelmed, J Smiles traipses into the uncharted ter...

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June 7, 2020

Uh oh! My prayer was answered.

Shocked by the doctor's advice of emergency brain surgery for her mother (Zetty), J Smiles asks God for a sign. With the prayer answered, she is consumed with saving her mother's life. The events that unfold make it obvious t...

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May 31, 2020

Something is wrong with my mama!

The first full episode. J Smiles reveals the shocking events leading to her mom's Alzheimer's diagnosis. Her swift meandering journey of becoming a full-time caregiver is vividly detailed. Heartfelt, and perhaps hard to hear,...

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May 21, 2020

Intro

Trailer: the what, the who & the why. A raw portrayal of a comedian daughter's care journey for a mom with ALZ.

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